Friday, October 14, 2016

To care or not to care in relationship / long distance relationship




Recently I encountered some problems in life in some aspects. For academic aspect, it is going well and improvement can be seen so it shouldn't be a big problem now, I will just proceed with my work and work it out to ensure my result is maintained. And now I am proceeding to second year in University. Hope everything goes well and god bless me.

  The problem that I realized is that sometimes I care too much in certain aspect, for example, relationship. I can say I am a tender kind of personality that often prioritized the other half. I know it is not easy to meet the right one and eventually get together so I care a lot to ensure everything goes smooth. There is no problem with the relationship thing, just I realized that sometimes it is not too good to care too much.

  I realized the problem and I tried to overcome it and I came up with these few things.

  Don't overthink. This is a serious issue as people tend to overthink about what will happen next in life. One does not simply predict the future so one doesn't have to spend so much time to think about the unknown, live at the moment and eventually you will become more delight. Focus on your current work or job or chores and responsibility. Do what you always do and avoid the negative thoughts that you think it MIGHT happen. Having a plan is fine, just plain plan that will guide you to a clearer path, but not direct it to the overthinking path which will turn a normal person to a psychopath.

  Trust your partner and whatever they are doing. Since my partner is far apart from me where we are not living together for the mean time, I always try to practice some other kind of activities to prevent the overthinking situation from happening. Do not always make them your everything, all time every time. You live your life and you need to find something else to do, perhaps some exercises, gathering with friends, hanging out to catch a movie or even accompany your family members. Sometimes I do feel boring when I am too free but my partner is not available, and I got nothing to do. I miss her and I tell her every time, still you have to find something else to do. Make your life an interesting one, self-entertained and always share what you do when you spend your time alone. I am quite certain that your partner would want to know what you're up to when he or she is not around. Other than that, I am also certain that your partner did the same thing as well when you're not around. Spend your time wisely with your partner as long as they wanna have a chat, to make sure that both of you feel connected, mentally. And you will feel peace about everything. Tell them you love them and meet up and have a talk sometimes, to make the bond between you two closer.

  Well, it doesn't mean that I am telling you not to think about your partner, but try to balance it with your routine.

  It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. Some people may encounter time difference as they live in different country. Plan for a trip that you fly to him or her just to meet her for a couple days or even weeks, just to keep him or her accompany. I bet those who are in a relationship, especially long distance relationship tend to be happier and glad when they finally meet their partner after a long time. So plan well and always communicate to let you feel you are still there. 

  But the most important criteria in all these cases is --- Trust. As long as you trusted your partner and your partner trusted you, it should be fine. Love will overcome problems as long as two of them managed and able to secure the path they are walking. Hence, a relationship can be maintain well and long lasting.

  I will be back when I got something to share. For now, I am gonna make my life interesting by looking for something else to do after I done typing here since my partner is not around. Oh ya by the way, I love you my cutiepie baby gf <3

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