To care or not to care in relationship / long distance relationship

Recently I encountered some problems in life in some aspects. For academic aspect, it is going well and improvement can be seen so it shouldn't be a big problem now, I will just proceed with my work and work it out to ensure my result is maintained. And now I am proceeding to second year in University. Hope everything goes well and god bless me.

  The problem that I realized is that sometimes I care too much in certain aspect, for example, relationship. I can say I am a tender kind of personality that often prioritized the other half. I know it is not easy to meet the right one and eventually get together so I care a lot to ensure everything goes smooth. There is no problem with the relationship thing, just I realized that sometimes it is not too good to care too much.

  I realized the problem and I tried to overcome it and I came up with these few things.

  Don't overthink. This is a serious issue as people tend to overthink about what will happen next in life. One does not simply predict the future so one doesn't have to spend so much time to think about the unknown, live at the moment and eventually you will become more delight. Focus on your current work or job or chores and responsibility. Do what you always do and avoid the negative thoughts that you think it MIGHT happen. Having a plan is fine, just plain plan that will guide you to a clearer path, but not direct it to the overthinking path which will turn a normal person to a psychopath.

  Trust your partner and whatever they are doing. Since my partner is far apart from me where we are not living together for the mean time, I always try to practice some other kind of activities to prevent the overthinking situation from happening. Do not always make them your everything, all time every time. You live your life and you need to find something else to do, perhaps some exercises, gathering with friends, hanging out to catch a movie or even accompany your family members. Sometimes I do feel boring when I am too free but my partner is not available, and I got nothing to do. I miss her and I tell her every time, still you have to find something else to do. Make your life an interesting one, self-entertained and always share what you do when you spend your time alone. I am quite certain that your partner would want to know what you're up to when he or she is not around. Other than that, I am also certain that your partner did the same thing as well when you're not around. Spend your time wisely with your partner as long as they wanna have a chat, to make sure that both of you feel connected, mentally. And you will feel peace about everything. Tell them you love them and meet up and have a talk sometimes, to make the bond between you two closer.

  Well, it doesn't mean that I am telling you not to think about your partner, but try to balance it with your routine.

  It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. Some people may encounter time difference as they live in different country. Plan for a trip that you fly to him or her just to meet her for a couple days or even weeks, just to keep him or her accompany. I bet those who are in a relationship, especially long distance relationship tend to be happier and glad when they finally meet their partner after a long time. So plan well and always communicate to let you feel you are still there. 

  But the most important criteria in all these cases is --- Trust. As long as you trusted your partner and your partner trusted you, it should be fine. Love will overcome problems as long as two of them managed and able to secure the path they are walking. Hence, a relationship can be maintain well and long lasting.

  I will be back when I got something to share. For now, I am gonna make my life interesting by looking for something else to do after I done typing here since my partner is not around. Oh ya by the way, I love you my cutiepie baby gf <3

Me Before You - review from Jack

“You only get one life. It's actually your duty to live it as fully as possible.” 
― Jojo Moyes, Me Before You

  This movie is a recent hot search title, on websites, social networks, and the whole internet is discussing about this particular movie, which is based on the novel, Me Before You by Jojo Moyes. Why is this movie such trending after it's released? We will see that later. Today I'm here to talk about my opinion about this movie.

  Two days ago, which is 3rd of June, I went for this movie not because of I really want to watch it. Since my friends are asking is there anybody want to watch it. For me, I don't actually fond of this kind of romance title movie as I'm a big fan of Marvel and DC superheroes movies, I prefer some action film rather than this genre of film range. Since I never read the novel before so I really don't have any idea on how is the storyline is going on and how is it going to act. I went in to the dark cinema with chilly air-conditioner, to enjoy the vibes that it exerts.

  About this particular movie, all I can say it's quite fascinating after I watched it and astonished at the same time. First of all, the last same line movie that I watched was 'The Fault In Our Stars' by John Green. Hazel Grace and Augustus Waters both suffer from severe cancer which end up dying. As for Will Traynor from this movie, well, I think he's kinda selfish if you view it from a third person point of view, as there are people around who care about him, he shouldn't just end his life like that, leave everything and left. Which this is what most people think of after they watched this movie.

  Try to stand at the point of view of Will's parents and Clark's, you might get a different idea from that. As parents, obviously you don't want your child to just pick a way which end up giving up their life, they tried to make him feel better and try to change his mind of committing suicide after the accident. Parent's will always care about their children no matter what, as parents we can't just let our child to end his life that easily as there are still hope out there, for them. As for Louisa Clark, she loves him deeply, like real much. She meant a lot to him and he meant a lot to her, mutualism I guess. But what Clark didn't realised is Traynor's feeling in the first place. Traynor used to be an outgoing adventurous person, he is a dreamer, adventurer who step out for everything, explore and do anything that he wants, freedom can be seen on him before that accident.

  After accident, that is a trauma for him, paralysed below neck part, end up he only get to speak but do nothing, sitting on the wheel chair for the rest of his life. It's a doomsday for him, as what he did before the accident were all past, he can't do it anymore in the rest of his life. The ownself that he meant he was is the old him, the freedom him. The current situation is like an end of his life, worse than killing him, giving him an ultimate punishment for his life. Standing at his point of view, indeed, it's a never ending nightmare, he suffers everyday just to get out of this mess but he can't. That's why he is so eager to die as he doesn't want to live a life like this.

  Overall experience for this movie is still quite good though, the story line showed some sense of humor between the conversation of two selves. The ending is, well, as expected, if you love something you have to let it go, that's what came into my mine right after I came out from the theatre.

  Depends on which side you're standing. If I were Will Traynor and I've met my Louisa Clark, I will still try to live until the day where I think it's enough, then only I will plan for the next step. But before that, I will try to live by her side as, if I love her, I will stay for her. Well, that's some pieces of opinion after this movie. See you guys in the next one. Peace.

Expectation

 


 Expectation meant to be something you want yourself or just someone wants you achieve as they think you are capable of doing it, to meet the requirement of certain rank in some random field. Expectations has bias in someway that it shouldn't be, overly having high expectation on someone will only lead to disappointment. People with high self esteem, when they didn't meet their own expectation one day, they will feel depressed over it and someone will choose to end it with their own way and also the worst way, kill yourself.

  Nowadays, parents having high expectations to their children as we can see. Children are taught to be understand certain things and rules, for example, they must at least achieve some sort of achievement in school, for getting an A in certain subjects and maybe some coursework. A difference that can be seen is, western families may have difference perspective compared to asian families. For those, who grew up in an asian family, most of you know what is THAT level of expectation.

  I, grew up in a typical asian-chinese family. Parents always have expectations on their children, no matter what kind of age it is. A child will be impose on how important is it for you to get yourself a higher rank and good results in exam and school where they just impose it on their children like it is an instinct. From what I know, most of the western family (I said MOST of them) will just encourage their children to do better as they've tried their best, as for asian family (MOST of them again), parents tend to tell you what to do and follow their way of life, because that's the way they live, they want you to be the same as them.

  The reason why parents have such expectations from their children, probably due to they themselves are professionals in the level of society, so they want their descendants to follow their footsteps to become 'someone like them'. As for another reason, probably they just want their children to do well so that they can have that crucial criteria to brag with their friends and peers what a genius child I have, I'm so talent to guide and teach to have such a talented children, basically showing off purpose. So that they can earn probably some esteem that doesn't really mean much to the others. Asians don't like the feeling of being a loser, everybody is so damn 'kiasu' (afraid of being a loser).

  I hope parents don't expect too much from their children. They have the right to live the life that they prefer, not to be your puppet. Excessive expectations lead to disappointment, don't regret when the thing you really cherish has gone.

  Pursuing for abstract feeling of being an upper class doesn't make your life better, trust me.

  Parents please parents.

Day 7 in UTAR

  As I mentioned in the title, day 7 in University Tunku Abdul Rahman (UTAR). Everything just fine and went smoothly within the past week. Recently I'm quite busy with some chores so I don't really have time to update this little blog. Since I'm here and today is weekend, other than having to deal with assignments, I've decided to spare some time to update this blog for reference purpose, as get stuck in between assignments and homework is boring. To refresh my mind before I start to do my work again , this place is a good getaway for me.

  First of all, the campus is gorgeous, as the scenery in this campus is quite fascinating. As I don't really took photos of the campus so I will just borrow some of photos from Google below later. The weather here is freakish, 5 mins before the sun is shiny and freaking hot, 5 mins later you can see heavy downpour just happen right in front of you. So umbrella is an essential tool with me to deal with this kind of weather that can instantly kill somebody who is not used to it. Too frustrated.

Here are some landscape of the campus (pictures resource www.google.com, I don't owned those photos):

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (1)

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (2)

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (3) SIDE VIEW




GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (4) SIDE VIEW





FACULTY OF ARTS & SOCIAL SCIENCE, FICT, INSTITUTE OF CHINESE STUDIES





LIBRARY (BLOCK G)

HERITAGE HALL (BLOCK A)




HERITAGE HALL WITH CONFUCIUS AND ALBERT EINSTEIN STATUE





WEST LAKE




LAKE OF UTAR KAMPAR, SURROUNDING

  These photos are some of the landscape and scenery around the campus though there are still much more buildings around the campus. Anyway, the scenery here for me is quite good. Mountains and hills and lakes. A decent place for study.

  As for the workload in campus, still yet to be discover and it's still the first week. I'm still adapting to the culture here and the way people living here. Basically this area doesn't have much entertainment and if you're from urban area and let's say if you are a party animal or social freak I assume that you won't like this place as there is no shopping malls or pubs or clubs nearby. The nearest located near Ipoh which will take around 1 hour of driving to reach there, which I think still quite some distance from the campus. But eventually you will use to this place.

  Assignments and coursework are provided and you have to do it and probably for all the students here. Rumors from local students are heard that it's a University that is easy to enter but require efforts to graduate. So all the best for all the students here and hope you can excel as well as finding your way of life here.

  There are old town and new town which is significant for newly intake students to take note. Both the towns with their own styles. Literally, old town, old building that somewhat resemblance old decades with all kinds of old shop and perhaps a wet market. Too bad I don't have photos to provide because I haven't visit the whole town yet. A town that you will find nostalgia in it. As for new town, literally new town with lots of shops and supermarket and sports complex and all kinds of buildings including The Grand Kampar Hotel, student hostel, housing area, local secondary school and also Westlake International School. Waiting for you to discover yourself.

WESTLAKE INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL

THE GRAND KAMPAR HOTEL

  Anyway, it's a new place to discover. Neither a luxurious nor austere town, just average. I would recommend this place if you're searching for a tranquil place to continue your studies. A choice of yours, it depends on yourself. Different universities has different policies. These are just my opinions and it's just for reference purpose. Lastly, I hope I can cope with it. Best of luck to myself and it's time to head back to do my assignments.



Peace guys, see you in the next one.

Friends, harsh but wise

 As usual, some random night I will start playing Dota2 with my bros if we're free. Better if a few of us as a team, we play better and definitely more fun out there. We laugh together, smile together and make noise together. But sometimes things just happen and the situation just turn harsh. Yeah, I mean Harsh. When we lose, we quarrel. Well I think that's just part of discussion on how to be a better team, not always quarrel but sometimes. I just don't mind it if the mistakes are there.

  As friends, we always criticize each other as fun. Somewhat making the team more friendly. But shit turns real intense when the words are getting harder and the point target to someone who are sensitive enough to start a fight. An initiator? Well.. hmm.. that's the point I relate right under my mind, the word just flash in front of me. That's not a point, im just using an adjective. But I always know that they are not blaming just saying out their opinion. (well, we are the assholes that judge people around until they become those things that we insult, totally jerk)

  Everything has another face, nothing is really perfect in this world. Best friendship not always laugh and happy always but mixing with somewhat some sort of another part. Friends play an important role in our life. If i really have to give it a sequence in my life I'd said that it will be the place right after my family, considered as important person to me. Sometimes the words getting harsh and the debate tournament start. They are not really that mean but sometimes those words are harsh, I don't take it really serious because everyone has their own life to live, they might having other issues or problems that annoyed them really much. They just don't say it out and keep it in heart. The feeling burst when the debate tournament started, words are mean but they need to release those negative energy in order to feel better. As a friend, a bro, I learnt to tolerate them and listen to them, Then guide them, that's the point of friends and bro.

  Tolerating doesn't mean you lose your point, sometimes it just take you to another platform. Try to stand on your friends point of view to look at the situation, try to be considerate and try to tolerate and learn to accept it even though sometimes the words are just shitty annoying. RESPECT each other is a key point in order to maintain no matter what kind of relationship you have with others, and to everyone else in this world. As a support i will always try to support them if they are in problems, my solutions aren't always the bad but I tried to give you what i can to help. But sometimes, they are just assholes without mercy which I really don't have eyes to see their attitude hahaha.

  Friends are mean to guide. learn and go together no matter what kind of situation we all meet. Of course, you have to choose your friends wisely in order to learn how to walk together as a team. Then only you will learn the wise way to carry on a long lasting friendship with your buddies. I really appreciate the time I spend with you guys even though we seldom meet each other,

But our hearts are always link together as one, as a team. Bros for life, cheers!! *brofist*