To care or not to care in relationship / long distance relationship

Recently I encountered some problems in life in some aspects. For academic aspect, it is going well and improvement can be seen so it shouldn't be a big problem now, I will just proceed with my work and work it out to ensure my result is maintained. And now I am proceeding to second year in University. Hope everything goes well and god bless me.

  The problem that I realized is that sometimes I care too much in certain aspect, for example, relationship. I can say I am a tender kind of personality that often prioritized the other half. I know it is not easy to meet the right one and eventually get together so I care a lot to ensure everything goes smooth. There is no problem with the relationship thing, just I realized that sometimes it is not too good to care too much.

  I realized the problem and I tried to overcome it and I came up with these few things.

  Don't overthink. This is a serious issue as people tend to overthink about what will happen next in life. One does not simply predict the future so one doesn't have to spend so much time to think about the unknown, live at the moment and eventually you will become more delight. Focus on your current work or job or chores and responsibility. Do what you always do and avoid the negative thoughts that you think it MIGHT happen. Having a plan is fine, just plain plan that will guide you to a clearer path, but not direct it to the overthinking path which will turn a normal person to a psychopath.

  Trust your partner and whatever they are doing. Since my partner is far apart from me where we are not living together for the mean time, I always try to practice some other kind of activities to prevent the overthinking situation from happening. Do not always make them your everything, all time every time. You live your life and you need to find something else to do, perhaps some exercises, gathering with friends, hanging out to catch a movie or even accompany your family members. Sometimes I do feel boring when I am too free but my partner is not available, and I got nothing to do. I miss her and I tell her every time, still you have to find something else to do. Make your life an interesting one, self-entertained and always share what you do when you spend your time alone. I am quite certain that your partner would want to know what you're up to when he or she is not around. Other than that, I am also certain that your partner did the same thing as well when you're not around. Spend your time wisely with your partner as long as they wanna have a chat, to make sure that both of you feel connected, mentally. And you will feel peace about everything. Tell them you love them and meet up and have a talk sometimes, to make the bond between you two closer.

  Well, it doesn't mean that I am telling you not to think about your partner, but try to balance it with your routine.

  It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. Some people may encounter time difference as they live in different country. Plan for a trip that you fly to him or her just to meet her for a couple days or even weeks, just to keep him or her accompany. I bet those who are in a relationship, especially long distance relationship tend to be happier and glad when they finally meet their partner after a long time. So plan well and always communicate to let you feel you are still there. 

  But the most important criteria in all these cases is --- Trust. As long as you trusted your partner and your partner trusted you, it should be fine. Love will overcome problems as long as two of them managed and able to secure the path they are walking. Hence, a relationship can be maintain well and long lasting.

  I will be back when I got something to share. For now, I am gonna make my life interesting by looking for something else to do after I done typing here since my partner is not around. Oh ya by the way, I love you my cutiepie baby gf <3

What to do as a college freshman

 

Time flies, like the speed of light, travel at full speed and high speed without any hesitation of stop by and enjoy the scenery of light, ruthless and cruel. My fortnight semester break almost come to an end, gonna go back to campus by this weekend to clean up my room which is now maybe a nest for insects and an army of roaches. I'm gonna fight them like a warrior with my newly purchase pesticide to ensure my living environment is always clean and clear. An OCD guy will never allow dirty things to live inside his room, and that's me.

  Recently I've came across some status update about how am I going to survive my college life as a freshman. As an experienced, I will try to tell them what to do and some tips on surviving for the first few weeks. Two of my mum's friends got their daughter to enrolled in the foundation program in UTAR as well, as a senior I've told one of them what to do but basically what I do is to be a delivery man to deliver their parcel from their parents as now they're already in the campus for the orientation activity for a week. So now I will brief some of the way to survive in the first few weeks of college life.

  As a freshmen in college university, I got some tips on how to survive the first few weeks in college, that will be enroll in all kinds of activity that the college offers, try to reach as many people as you can and explore the surrounding of campus with certain basic knowledge of campus itself.

 When you're in a new place, especially when you're travelling far from you hometown to study alone in an all new place which is not familiar to you. Some of them may come from different state or even other country alone and the first problem they will face is shyness and awkwardness in talking to people. Well, you might feel it's kinda weird but DON'T HESITATE to talk to people or the staff if you have any problems. People are usually kind and some of them might have the same problem as you, struggling of finding someone to talk. So why not take a step forward and make friends and be nice to other people? Who knows if you guys will get along well later on. I strongly suggest those freshmen to attend the orientation week organised by the campus authority to let you get to know the place and the culture as well as the people around the place, to make it familiar to yourself.

  The second problem will be people will be having homesickness since they are away from their family, the people that they are familiar with, their normal peers and friends are not there for them. Sure they will be nervous about that. Some might be facing problems like having symptoms of nausea or health problems due to stress to leave your hometown to travel far. It's okay to cry, try to confess it to your family or friends or counselors, they will give you advise and tell you what to do. Distract your attention of homesickness by making new friends in the new area to broaden your social circle, mix with friends with a certain hobby and join clubs societies in campus to ensure your college life is meaningful. I wouldn't suggest you to sit in your room whole day but if you have roommate with you, might as well making friends with them first at the first step and they will lead you if they are seniors with experiences.

  Be outgoing, try to exercise or go to gym to work out to free your body and mind. I'm quite certain that you can meet somebody new also when you hit the gym or exercise near the garden nearby, talk to people and be nice with them. Concentrate on mind building and physical body building, academically and physically. That will help a lot in distract you from being stressful to a new place.

Well, I guess these are some basic thing you can refer to if you're facing the same problem during new intake of college. I will come back with another post later, peace.

Day 7 in UTAR

  As I mentioned in the title, day 7 in University Tunku Abdul Rahman (UTAR). Everything just fine and went smoothly within the past week. Recently I'm quite busy with some chores so I don't really have time to update this little blog. Since I'm here and today is weekend, other than having to deal with assignments, I've decided to spare some time to update this blog for reference purpose, as get stuck in between assignments and homework is boring. To refresh my mind before I start to do my work again , this place is a good getaway for me.

  First of all, the campus is gorgeous, as the scenery in this campus is quite fascinating. As I don't really took photos of the campus so I will just borrow some of photos from Google below later. The weather here is freakish, 5 mins before the sun is shiny and freaking hot, 5 mins later you can see heavy downpour just happen right in front of you. So umbrella is an essential tool with me to deal with this kind of weather that can instantly kill somebody who is not used to it. Too frustrated.

Here are some landscape of the campus (pictures resource www.google.com, I don't owned those photos):

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (1)

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (2)

GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (3) SIDE VIEW




GRAND HALL OF UTAR KAMPAR (4) SIDE VIEW





FACULTY OF ARTS & SOCIAL SCIENCE, FICT, INSTITUTE OF CHINESE STUDIES





LIBRARY (BLOCK G)

HERITAGE HALL (BLOCK A)




HERITAGE HALL WITH CONFUCIUS AND ALBERT EINSTEIN STATUE





WEST LAKE




LAKE OF UTAR KAMPAR, SURROUNDING

  These photos are some of the landscape and scenery around the campus though there are still much more buildings around the campus. Anyway, the scenery here for me is quite good. Mountains and hills and lakes. A decent place for study.

  As for the workload in campus, still yet to be discover and it's still the first week. I'm still adapting to the culture here and the way people living here. Basically this area doesn't have much entertainment and if you're from urban area and let's say if you are a party animal or social freak I assume that you won't like this place as there is no shopping malls or pubs or clubs nearby. The nearest located near Ipoh which will take around 1 hour of driving to reach there, which I think still quite some distance from the campus. But eventually you will use to this place.

  Assignments and coursework are provided and you have to do it and probably for all the students here. Rumors from local students are heard that it's a University that is easy to enter but require efforts to graduate. So all the best for all the students here and hope you can excel as well as finding your way of life here.

  There are old town and new town which is significant for newly intake students to take note. Both the towns with their own styles. Literally, old town, old building that somewhat resemblance old decades with all kinds of old shop and perhaps a wet market. Too bad I don't have photos to provide because I haven't visit the whole town yet. A town that you will find nostalgia in it. As for new town, literally new town with lots of shops and supermarket and sports complex and all kinds of buildings including The Grand Kampar Hotel, student hostel, housing area, local secondary school and also Westlake International School. Waiting for you to discover yourself.

WESTLAKE INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL

THE GRAND KAMPAR HOTEL

  Anyway, it's a new place to discover. Neither a luxurious nor austere town, just average. I would recommend this place if you're searching for a tranquil place to continue your studies. A choice of yours, it depends on yourself. Different universities has different policies. These are just my opinions and it's just for reference purpose. Lastly, I hope I can cope with it. Best of luck to myself and it's time to head back to do my assignments.



Peace guys, see you in the next one.