Lost stars

 On the journey of being a humankind, from the moment you were born, you're registered as a runner for life. From the beginning until the end; from live to death, there will be a never ending journey until the day your heart stop functioning. Well, it's not really a long marathon without stops in between. Many factors can make us to stop or proceed to the next level of the run of your life. Your result in the end depends on the actions and steps you take to reach the next level, different steps or actions may lead to different results. You are responsible for your own preference.

  Since young, you were taught to learn this and that, adapt what a life would be and hence make it better. Parents guide you until the level where you are able to do things on your own, they play an important role in deciding what your life would be in the future. Since young, you're taught to play your role good, do according to instructions, spoon-feeding educations and here comes the real challenge - Adulthood.

  What's so different with adulthood? Maybe for insects, it's considered as metamorphosis. Maybe for humankind, it's a transformation from everything dependent to everything independent, sounds hard for particular people but adapting yourself into this new world full of challenge is a huge challenge indeed. Everything changed the moment you leave your nest, your home, your hometown, your parents or maybe your so called 'boyfriends or girlfriends'. The phrase Live Your Life has never been so real until you started to experience it yourself after you leave.

  On the journey, you will meet a lot of people, been to a lot of places no matter how prestigious or how insignificant it is. You explore the life in front of you by yourself, find the true self of you, the inner part of you, and learn how to be a better self. On this journey, you can be inspired by people, by their personal experiences, their past stories and also all kind of comments. Meeting new people ain't that bad, you just have to adjust yourself to fit in it. Humans are inertial animal, so you just have to change yourself in order to survive. It might be hard at the start but eventually you will know what to do and how to deal with problems. Always be optimistic and inspired. Encouragements from others are good though, making a positive image for those who need.

  Sometimes, you feel lost, you don't have a direction, you're insecure, you're not sure which way to march in and continue your journey. At this moment, don't ever stop exploring, don't stop your journey because you're stuck. Take whatever way to continue your journey cause you don't know what will happen next and where the way will lead you to. A lot of people stop at this point because they scare they will fall, and once fall they consider themselves as failure and thus given up. That's really not the real way of life. Life is about testing out new things, exploring your life so you are able to find the real way that suits you the best and continue with the journey that you desired. That's the way of making it out, face the problems not frigging run away from it. Escaping will not get the problem done and sometimes it make it worse. Just work it out when you're lost, eventually you will found something that's worth all the time you spent on it.

  It's okay to have a stop when you're tired but never give up. Giving up in life means end, death. Remember why you start and why God chose you as a participant- to make you a better person. Life is like a drawing block, you are the artist and you design your masterpiece. Change to a new environment when you feel like to, be flexible, human are meant to be creative and not to live in a dull way. Be creative, you create your own life. Changing an environment will always lead you to a new way of living your life and creating yourself on who you are. Just keep that in mind.

  Always remember, stay positive, explore the life yourself and keep changing until you find the best way to live your life. Don't ever give up on life cause God trusted you. Find yourself in the journey of life, not just living like walking dead. Find yourself, get a life, change until you find the best in you.

Inspired by : J.Y. Chin

Expectation

 


 Expectation meant to be something you want yourself or just someone wants you achieve as they think you are capable of doing it, to meet the requirement of certain rank in some random field. Expectations has bias in someway that it shouldn't be, overly having high expectation on someone will only lead to disappointment. People with high self esteem, when they didn't meet their own expectation one day, they will feel depressed over it and someone will choose to end it with their own way and also the worst way, kill yourself.

  Nowadays, parents having high expectations to their children as we can see. Children are taught to be understand certain things and rules, for example, they must at least achieve some sort of achievement in school, for getting an A in certain subjects and maybe some coursework. A difference that can be seen is, western families may have difference perspective compared to asian families. For those, who grew up in an asian family, most of you know what is THAT level of expectation.

  I, grew up in a typical asian-chinese family. Parents always have expectations on their children, no matter what kind of age it is. A child will be impose on how important is it for you to get yourself a higher rank and good results in exam and school where they just impose it on their children like it is an instinct. From what I know, most of the western family (I said MOST of them) will just encourage their children to do better as they've tried their best, as for asian family (MOST of them again), parents tend to tell you what to do and follow their way of life, because that's the way they live, they want you to be the same as them.

  The reason why parents have such expectations from their children, probably due to they themselves are professionals in the level of society, so they want their descendants to follow their footsteps to become 'someone like them'. As for another reason, probably they just want their children to do well so that they can have that crucial criteria to brag with their friends and peers what a genius child I have, I'm so talent to guide and teach to have such a talented children, basically showing off purpose. So that they can earn probably some esteem that doesn't really mean much to the others. Asians don't like the feeling of being a loser, everybody is so damn 'kiasu' (afraid of being a loser).

  I hope parents don't expect too much from their children. They have the right to live the life that they prefer, not to be your puppet. Excessive expectations lead to disappointment, don't regret when the thing you really cherish has gone.

  Pursuing for abstract feeling of being an upper class doesn't make your life better, trust me.

  Parents please parents.